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LGBTQ Book Recommendations Part 2

 In Love Stories, Jonathan Ned Katz presents stories of men's intimacies with men during the nineteenth century—including those of Abraham Lincoln—drawing flesh-and-blood portraits of intimate friendships and the ways in which men struggled to name, define, and defend their sexual feelings for one another. In a world before "gay" and "straight" referred to sexuality, men like Walt Whitman and John Addington Symonds created new ways to name and conceive of their erotic relationships with other men. Katz, diving into history through diaries, letters, newspapers, and poems, offers us a clearer picture than ever before of how men navigated the uncharted territory of male-male desire.






28th April 1870. Fanny and Stella, the flamboyantly dressed Miss Fanny Park and Miss Stella Boulton, are causing a stir in the Strand Theatre. All eyes are riveted upon their lascivious ogling's of the gentlemen in the stalls. Moments later they are led away by the police. What followed was a scandal that shocked and titillated Victorian England in equal measure.

It turned out that the alluring Miss Fanny Park and Miss Stella Boulton were no ordinary young women. Far from it. In fact, 'Boulton and Park' were young men who liked to dress as women. When the Metropolitan Police launched a secret campaign to bring about their downfall, they were arrested and subjected to a sensational show trial in Westminster Hall.

As the trial of 'the Young Men in Women's Clothes' unfolded, Fanny and Stella's extraordinary lives as wives and daughters, actresses and whores were revealed to an incredulous public.

With a cast of peers, politicians and prostitutes, drag queens, doctors and detectives, Fanny and Stella is a Victorian peepshow, exposing the startling underbelly of nineteenth-century London. By turns tragic and comic, meticulously researched and dazzlingly written, Fanny and Stella is an enthralling tour-de-force.
 







Happy Pride 2021 - Books

        Hello to all you beautiful LGBTQ people around the world.

I hope you are all having a happy and safe pride so far, over the next couple of days I will be posting queer books I have read/ currently reading and recommendations, just because I can. #HappyPride2021

Outlaw Marriages by Rodger Streitmatter

For more than a century before gay marriage became a hot-button political issue, same-sex unions flourished in America. Pairs of men and pairs of women joined together in committed unions, standing by each other “for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health” for periods of thirty or forty—sometimes as many as fifty—years. In short, they loved and supported each other every bit as much as any husband and wife.

In Outlaw Marriages, cultural historian Rodger Streitmatter reveals how some of these unions didn’t merely improve the quality of life for the two people involved but also enriched the American culture.



Red Azalea by Anchee Min

Red Azalea is Anchee Min’s celebrated memoir of growing up in the last years of Mao’s China. As a child, she was asked to publicly humiliate a teacher; at seventeen, she was sent to work at a labour collective. Forbidden to speak, dress, read, write, or love as she pleased, she found a lifeline in a secret love affair with another woman. Miraculously selected for the film version of one of Madame Mao’s political operas, Min’s life changed overnight. Then Chairman Mao suddenly died, taking with him an entire world. A revelatory and disturbing portrait of China.


Minimalist Lifestyle - My Take On It

Minimalist Lifestyle The Basics 

*personal opinions are in red just like this text*

Minimalist Meaning: Keeping Things Very Simple.
A minimalist prefers the minimal amount or degree of something. But anyone who likes things very simple could be called a minimalist.
*I fail a little at this as I am a teacher*

Minimalist Lifestyle
Living with less. This includes less financial burdens such as debt and unnecessary expenses. For many minimalists, the philosophy is about getting rid of excess stuff and living life based on experiences rather than possessions. 

What is extreme Minimalist?: 
It involves choosing to live a life with only the barest of necessities for example having no furniture but that's the extreme side of it. *My personal opinion here is just make sure you wear the stuff you have and donate what you don't wear*

How to start in minimalist?: 
1: Create a clear mindset: Its important to have a good mindset as this will help in the physical decluttering process. Creating a minimalist mindset is living with awareness. *its really just about making a few changes to create a habit to start clearing your mental clutter*

2: Make your intentions clear: You need to know why you want to make this lifestyle change a reality, the reasons can be 
                   - You want to save money?
                   -You want more space around the home?
                   - You want more experiences over things?
If you start feeling over whelmed along the way go back to the beginning and go thought why you are doing this. *I started my journey so I can pay off debt then save for teaching abroad*

3: One room at a time: Pick one room at a time and focus on decluttering that space before moving on to the next one so you don't get overwhelmed and give up. *Listen carefully to this step because I got overwhelmed a few times and still do*

4: Get a system: Stick to the decluttering system! 
Your 3 piles could be - Keep
                               -Donate
                               - Throw
Don't keep anything for "JUST IN CASE"
*I always kept a bag of clothes that needed adjusting as I am just too small ill be honest I haven't got rid of it yet*

5: Your closet: Some rule to live by - 
- Never keep anything you feel uncomfortable in.
- Follow the old rule of throwing/ donating anything you haven't used in 6 months.
- Stick with a similar colour pallet so your clothes coordinate.
How to: Try everything on (EVERYTHING)
            : Get rid of anything with holes/ torn/ stained.
            : Donate anything you are not comfortable in or is too small.
*This is the first thing I did I tried one everything from tights, underwear, summer, winter clothes, everything*

6: Go paperless: *I am learning this part myself*
How to: Get everything paper out and make 2 piles KEEP/ BIN
Keep: Birth certificates
         :ID -drivers licence/ passport
         :Education Certificates/ degrees /diplomas 
         :Licences - Marriage/ divorce certificate
         : Insurance/ health polices/ tax information/ morgage
Bin: Old bills (longer than a year)
     :Payslips (longer than a year)
     :News letters/ update letters
     :Old employment contracts
     :Bank statements
*Most of the time businesses do a online option even in receipts so always opt for it if you can Don't just bin these documents as they will have sensitive information on the have them shredded or burned. Going paperless not only adds towards a more minimal lifestyle but it massively reduces your carbon footprint*

7: Experience not Possessions:
Choose to enrich your life with experiences or new skills maybe a new adventure.
Birthdays and Christmas's are great for new experience's.
- Fun group activity.
- Days out
- Picnics
- Fell walking

8: Replace don't add:
Try to resist adding to your possessions by replacing things why they are finally at the end of their life or too old to use and then only replace then if you really need them. Most of the time you already have something similar that could do the job or you could just with out it in general.
Resist as many purchases as possible we do not want to buy in to fast fashion or cheap items. *my own rule with this is use what you have first because no doubt you have a few of them. Remember old body wash and shampoos can be used as hand soap for the skinks once their in a different bottle no one will know the difference, I have one in my kitchen and bathroom sink for the hand wash same goes for body moisturiser they can be used for the hands also again just place them in a different container*

9: Consider alternative living.
Many people are living by smaller spaces these days. Space is a premium and anything that doesn't have a use is a nuisance.
- Van life *I always dreamed of van life but I cant drive*
- Small homes

10: Cut down TV: The average person in the UK spends 24 hours a week watching TV.
- Limit your tv to the evenings.
- Go on a walk/ hike
- Get into youtube (there's many free videos on there)
- Read a book
- Play cards/ board games
- Cook or learn to cook (see youtube)
- Talk/ Start a conversation
*I don't have tv haven't had for about 2 years now, I have Netflix/ prime and youtube. I get the news every morning from suri* 

11: Travel light: This is self explanatory.
Trust me you don't want to be lugging a suitcase around with you full of cloths you don't wear just because they were on sale.

12: Plan your meals: The UK household wastes £470 worth of food a year, planning what you will eat for the whole month/ fortnightly/ weekly helps and saves you money. 
How to: Write out the ingredient that's needed for the meals and only buy that.
           : Get delivery if you can then there's no temptation for browsing!
*I have four meals throughout the month so next months will be bolognaise sauce, sweet chilli prawn linguine, fajita wraps, curry (tikka, korma, saga loo ect). I spend one afternoon making all the sauces in batches then freeze them, I make rice and pasta, spaghetti fresh when I need it, my advice for that is don't freeze it I have tried it and for me it came out soggy when defrosted. When I need a meal I get one out of the freezer in the morning to defrost for tea in the evening*.

Links: The Minimalists These boys have been going for about 10 years and are now on Netflix.
Extreme minimalist Check out this lady if you want extreme


 

BOOKS: Smokejumper by Jason Ramos


Smoke jumper by Jason Ramos

Enter a world of breathtakingly danger and beauty: In this remarkable memoir, veteran smokejumper Jason Ramos offers a rare inside look at the lives of airborne firefighters, the select few who parachute into the most rugged and remote wild areas to battle nature's blazes.

My Review: This is the best book I have read this year. 
Straight talking and to the point but what a brilliant story and he reads it with a soothing voice.

Evening Skincare Routine


Hello Beautiful People

Today I am bringing you my Evening Skin Care Routing there's not many things I do so this post might be a little short one.

My Routine:
1: Put my hair up with a headband
2: Fill the sink with warm water
3: wet my face then use my cucumber wash LINK HERE
4: Dry my face 
5: Apply my Argan Oil night serum LINK HERE

My Opinion: I do like this product but I don't love it.
it worked wonders for my skin and if it didn't have the smell I would keep it forever but for me the smell although pleasant to others its just not something I wanted. I am going to finish what i have then try something different, but i do advise you to try it as it is a great serum.


Memorial Day For Comfort Woman in South Korea 14th March

      Memorial Day in South Korea for Comfort Woman

The international memorial day was held for Asian women forced into sexual slavery by the Japanese military during World War II.
The National ceremony marking the International Memorial Day for Comfort Women took place at the Hill of National Commemoration in Cheonan, south of Seoul, with the slogan of "memory for the future."
About 100 people, including elderly Korean women sexually enslaved by the imperial Japanese army, participated.
South Koreans have called on Japan to offer a sincere apology and compensation for the victims, but the neighbouring country has remained silent.
It is the third time that the government has hosted a national ceremony commemorating the day since 2018, when it was designated a national memorial day. 

The International Memorial Day for Comfort Women falls on Aug. 14th, the day when the late Kim Hak-soon, a former comfort woman, first publicly testified about Japan operating an organized military brothel program during the war in 1991.


"The testimony by Kim Hak-soon resonated across the globe, revealing the truth and the violence against women," she said. "Now we have to think of what we can learn from the tragedy in history."
The government then opened a digital archive that stored more than 500 files of documents and materials on "comfort women," a euphemistic term for the former sex slaves. 
The online depository (www.archive814.co.kr) includes reports by the United Nations forces during the Korean War and official statements by the Japanese government.

Up to 200,000 women, mostly Koreans, were coerced into sexual servitude in front-line Japanese brothels when the Korean Peninsula was a Japanese colony.





Road Trip To Blackpool

        Hey you beautiful people,
 I hope you have all been well and healthy.

Not much has happened really other than my mother and father got in touch and took me for the day in Blackpool.
We did the usual went shopping, walked down the pier which by the way was very windy, I bought us some hot sugary donuts which we all loved, we then came back home and stopped off at Windermere where had curry and chips by the lake and watched the boats. 
It was amazing to be out below are some videos of the day.




Morning Skincare Routine

             Good morning everybody

Today we are talking about skincare routines and products.
I will be very honest with you mine is not no wear near expensive or lavish, mine is affordable with products that are made for combination skin, just a heads up there.

When we went into lockdown my routine was very basic and consisted of washing my face and applying moisturiser that was it. (shock horror) while in lockdown I found TikTok! (God help us all) and some of you ladies and gentlemen were doing your routines and makeup I was amazed, I was very interested I also learnt what order to put things in because I really never new (don't shame me).
I was never been feminine enough to know how things went nor was I very interested when I was younger.

I now have a 3 step routing with a few extras when I decided to pamper myself so without further a do here it is.

Step 1: Wash Your Face/ Cleanse
Cucumber Facial Scrub (Gently Exfoliates) Link Here
(The is a new addition to my routine as I finished my other one this has a cooling effect and smells of cucumbers)

 

Step 2: Apply Serum
Organic Hemp Face Serum Link Here 
(This serum is suitable for all skin types and is a new addition to my routine it comes in the white tube but I placed mine in the amber bottle because the pump didn't work)



Step 3: Apply Moisturiser 
Oil Free Moisturising Day Cream 24H Moisture Boost + Matte
(oily and combination skinLink Here 
(I have combination skin and it has taken me a while to figure out how to deal with it but this product has been a life saver for me)


Sending light and love to you all
Stay safe and wear a mask
Love Kay
xoxoxox


Pride History


Recent NewsOn June 15, 2020, the Supreme Court of the United States ruled that it is illegal for an employer to fire someone because of their sexual orientation or gender identity. The 6-3 ruling adds LGBTQ people to Title VII of the Civil Rights Act, which forbids discrimination based on sex, race, color, national origin and religion. 

What does LGBTQ stand for: 
L - Lesbian
G - Gay
B - Bisexual
T - Transgender
Q - Queer/ Questioning

Stone Riots a brief history: Very few establishments welcomed gay people in the 1950s and 1960s. At the time Stonewall Inn was owned by mafia, it catered to the poorest and most marginalised people in the community: Butch Lesbians, Effeminate young men, Drag Queens, Male Prostitutes, Transgender people and Homeless Youths. A year after Stonewall on June 28th 1970 the first gay pride marches took place in New York, Los Angeles and San Francisco.
The Stonewall Monument was established at the site in 2016.
Lillian Faderman calls the riots the 'Shots heard around the world' saying 'The Stonewall Rebellion was crucial because it sounded the rally for that movement, it became emblem of gay and lesbian power'.

 

LGBTQ timeline: 1688 to 2020
  • 1688 - 1704 - Kagemachaya a Japanese gay bar first opens in japan
  • 1785 - Jeremy Betham is one of the first people to argue for the decriminalization of sodomy in England.
  • 1794 - The kingdom of Prussia abolishes the death penalty for sodomy.
  • 1794 - Luxemburg decriminalises sodomy
  • 1794 - Belgium decriminalises sodomy.
  • 1807 - The Duchy of Warsaw is created and re - legalizing same sex sexual intercourse.
  • 1835 - The last known execution for homosexuality in Great Briton. James Prall and John Smith are hanged at Newgate after being caught together in private lodgings.
  • 1890 - Homosexuality is legalised in the Vatican.
  • 1895 - The trail of Oscar Wilde resulted in him being prosecuted under criminal law amendment act 1885 for gross indecency and sentenced to two years in prison.
  • 1906 - The first gay American novel with a happy ending Imre is published.
  •  1921 -  England attempts to make lesbians illegal for the first time in Britain history fails.
  • 1931 - Madchen in uniform is one of the first explicitly lesbian films and the first pro - lesbian film released.
  • 1938 - The word gay is used for the first time in film reference to homosexuality in the film Bringing Up The Baby.
  • 1941 - Transsexuality was first used in reference to homosexuality and bisexuality.
  • 1952 - The male homosexual magazine 'Adonis' is launched with the writer Yukio Mishima as a contributor in Japan.  
  • 1972 - Sweden becomes the first country to allow transsexuals to legally change their sex and provide free hormone therapy.
  • 1991 - The Red Ribbon was first used as a symbol for HIV/AIDS campaign.
1993 - Brandon Teena was raped and murdered, he was a trans man. 
  •  2001 - Same sex marriage laws came into effect in the Netherlands with joint adoption.
  • 2003 - Buffy the vampire slayer showed girlfriends Willow and Tara in bed together (not a sex scene) but a first for its kind for the Network. 
2005 - Mahmoud Asgari and Ayaz Marhoni were executed in Iran for allegedly raping a 13 year old boy or for just being gay?? 
(this one doesn't make sense to me so I have posted the official link to see if you can understand itHere's the story     

                            
  • 2009 - Carol Ann Duffy was chosen as the first openly gay poet laureate in the UK.
  • 2012 - Taiwan's first same sex Buddhist wedding was for Fish Huang and her partner You Ya-Ting ❤
  • 2013 - Todd Hughes became the first openly gay US Circuit Judge.
  • 2014 - The first open transgender woman got married in Malta.
  • 2016 - Amanda Nunes become UFCs first openly gay champion.
  •  2017 - Queer art show leads Tate 2017 programme
  • 2018 - The first time in history of the winter Olympics that male athletes competed in who were openly gay.
  • 2019 -  Prince Harry and Megan became the first British royals to celebrate LGBTQ Pride Month.
  • 2020 - The US Supreme Court ruled a federal law protecting gay, lesbian and transgender employees from work place discrimination. 
There's a million other mile stones that have happened over the years good and bad above are a few that jumped out at me.

What are your most memorable things throughout LGBTQ History?